Getting Yourself A Ring: A Guide

Many women won’t treat themselves to jewellery because they believe that it is not something they should buy for themselves, but should rather receive as a gift.


This is according to Heidi Wahl of First Diamonds, South Africa’s largest diamond and tanzanite merchants, who say that this mindset needs to change and modern women can and should spoil themselves with an item of jewellery – recommending a self-love ring as the perfect purchase to start. 


Many women feel that they can’t reward themselves with what they truly want, however – you deserve it!  Treat yourself by splurging a little on a self-love ring and click here to read. Not only will it inspire good feelings when you pick it out, but also every time you look down and see it on your finger.

List Down Your Choices

Diamonds or gemstones, platinum or gold, narrowing down your ring options may seem overwhelming, but don’t panic. Just take it one step at a time. Start with style: Are you envisioning a simple band or one with embellishments?


Do you want your wedding ring to be the same metal as your engagement ring? Do you think you and your partner’s rings should match? Work out this kind of questions beforehand so you can zero in on exactly what you’re looking for, then start shopping around.

Match With Your Lifestyle

While this may seem like an obvious point, many people forget to remember that the wedding ring they choose should suit their lifestyle. Considering that this is a piece of jewellery that you will wear every day for a lifetime, it must fit your lifestyle to ensure that it lasts a lifetime.


The ring you buy should be stylish but also practical. For example, if you have a very active, outdoorsy lifestyle or are exposed to lots of chemicals, your ring should be tough enough to withstand that sort of exposure. Take this into consideration when deciding on your metal and style and make sure you check this with your jeweller before you buy.

Mix It Up

Don’t fret if you like platinum and your partner likes yellow gold. No rule says you have to choose the same metal or even style. You could compromise with braided bands that blend the two metals or just be totally different—the key to finding something you both love is choosing wedding bands that reflect your individual styles.

Make A Statement

What’s the first thing you do when you meet someone? Shake their hand. Why not make a statement with a bold and memorable ring? It could also be an easy way to break the ice as a conversation starter. Look for a self-love right that has an unusual stone or design work.


These are great for those women with bold personalities. You can make your jewellery speak for you. Larger rings tend to make a bolder statement. You also don’t have to limit yourself to your pinky. Look for a ring that would look great on your pointer finger or even your thumb.

You Aren’t Waiting To Be Told You’re Worth It

Is it sad to buy yourself a ring? NO! Many women won’t buy themselves jewellery, even a self-love ring that they adore. That’s because they believe that jewellery shouldn’t be bought for themselves. 


But buying your own jewellery means you aren’t sitting around waiting for some guy or girl to show you your worth, to be “allowed” a symbol of love – you’re choosing when you’ll get that ring and owning it. Instead of hoping and wishing for a sparkling emerald or glittering ruby ring on your birthday, Christmas, New Year – or your would-be engagement! – you’re taking control and telling the world that you don’t need someone else to give you a ring.


A ring that you’ve chosen yourself and gone out to make yours is your design, your decision, your own piece of timeless beauty to wear and enjoy. 


Don’t let other people’s ideas about life hold you back – why are you waiting to make a dream come true?

Know Your Budget

Shop with the assumption that you’ll spend about 3 per cent of your total wedding budget on the rings. Embellishments, like diamonds or engraving, will quickly add to the cost, so factor that into your budget if you plan to personalize your rings with any of these extras. 


The price of engraving is usually based on the number of characters, the font used and whether it’s engraved by hand or machine (hand is usually pricier).